Have you ever asked yourself: What am I doing wrong? Why am I not getting any attention? Why doesn´t he respect me? Why doesn´t he talk to me? Why is my home like this? Why? Why? Why… It comes to a point when our life is a constant interrogation and an infinite sequence of why´s.
Well, I am here to tell you that maybe you have the answer right in front of you but you are just not seeing it! We, as women, are so impetuous to talk, to act and react, to do certain things that we end up not thinking about the consequences of our actions or words. If we listened more and spoke less at certain times, if we would thoughtfully control our words, we could perhaps always end up “winning” in every situation. This is the behavior of a God fearing woman. What does God want me to do? This is pretty much the only question we should be asking ourselves on a daily basis.
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.” Proverbs 14:1
My sisters let´s by wise and build our houses instead of tearing it down. Our houses is our marriege, our engagement, our job, our business, our behavior, our mother and children relationship, etc. Let´s practice patience, tolerance, humility, grace, respect, love, faith! This is what God wants from us women. He wants to hand us a house full of joy, love, happiness and abundance. This is the house God is referring to!
If your husband is not giving you the proper respect, re-evaluate the respect you are giving to him. Listen to him, maybe you are not paying attention to him, to his language. How do you talk to him? How do you respond to his requests? Are you kind? Are you gracious with your words? Do you do what he asks you to do, with love, with satisfaction? When you get into an argument, what is your attitude? Does your voice escalate to the point of screams and verbal offenses? Do you talk louder than him? A wise woman undestands the power of her words as well as the power of her silence. How is your behavior towards him in front of others? Do you expose his weaknesses to others? In the house, are you paying attention to the cleanup of the house? Do you do your best at cooking? A virtuous woman is loyal and dedicated.
How about the way you present yourself? We as women should always be discrete in our outfits in public. I am not saying that we should always be covering every part of our body sistas! But we can always dress up or down with class, elegance and prudence. There are parts of your body that only your husband or yourself have to see. How do you care for yourself? We should always be presentable, especially for our husband or future husband. Don´t let yourself go because of tiredness, sloth or sloppiness. Do your best to always have your hair arranged, have pleasent odors.
“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband; but a disgraceful woman is like rotteness to his bones.” Proverbs 12:4
So my sistas, let´s make our husbands and everyone else that surrounds us feel at ease with our virtuous presence. For our husbands, especially, let´s make him feel that he can conquer anything with his crown (you) on top of his head! We were made by God to be a man´s auxiliator, to assist him in whatever he needs. My proposition for you today is that we do that with faith in God, with grace, respect and love!
Be blessed my loves!